Tell people that you are having a baby, starting a new
career, getting married, taking up ice climbing, running a marathon, studying
to be an iguana trainer and they will all say ‘How fantastic –
congratulations!’
But tell people that you are getting off the hamster wheel,
selling everything and moving to Mexico and the collective response seems to be…
“But what will you do?!?”
I happen to think that regaining my sanity, my health, my
sense of humour and my joie de vivre is ‘doing’ something in spades, but I now
realize it’s all a bit ‘nothing’ in our fast-paced, accomplishment-driven
society. Which is why I’m doing it. Nothing I mean. And moving to Mexico.
I like Mexico because they like to do things a bit differently
down there. For one, they move more slowly. Partly because it’s hot. But mostly
because they get distracted by the little things in life – like stopping to
chat to an old friend on the street, then going for a coca cola instead of the
meeting they were headed to. Or popping in to see if the old abuela across the
street needs anything from the market. It’s frustrating at times, when you are
the one at the other end of the meeting agenda, but after awhile you find you
are doing the same. And no one thinks lesser of you.
What I have noticed about this culture is that they spend
their time doing the things that give them joy. I suppose that is why they refer
to retirement as ‘jubilado’, or ‘jubilant’ in English, which needs no
explanation although ‘exultingly joyful ‘ comes to mind. In
our own less passionate language, ‘retired’ is defined as 1. Having
left one's job and ceased to work or 2. Quiet and secluded; not seen or
frequented by many people. Think I’d rather be jubilado. Or in my case –
jubilada. Which
brings me back to that pesky, puzzling and self-esteem denting question…“But what will you do?!?”
Although I am not sure what I will be doing down the road, I can tell you
what I won’t do.
I won’t get out of bed until I’m damn well ready.
I won’t put my personal health and well being behind
everything else.
I won’t forget to kiss my husband in the morning.
I won’t say “I don’t have time’.
I won’t say no to a game of golf.
I won’t rush through lunch with a friend because I have
something else to do.
I won’t neglect to brush my dog and clean his ears.
I won’t wait 2 weeks to phone my mom.
I won’t wake up 5 times a night worried about work.
I won’t leave the lentils cooking on the stove for 2 hours
because I’m writing a proposal and I’ve been procrastinating - again.
I won’t say no when I can say yes.
I won’t get out of the tub when the water gets cold – I’ll
add more hot water.
I won’t work til 7 pm every night.
I won’t work on the weekends.
I won’t worry about staying up late because I have to get up
early.
I won’t do anything I don’t want to do.
I won’t worry about money, even though I should.
I won’t worry about it being a ‘school night’.
I won’t care if I don’t make the bed.
I won’t wait til 10 pm to read my book.
And most important of all.
I won’t feel bad because I’m not ‘doing’ anything.
I know I am going to be my own worst enemy when it comes to
this doing nothing stuff. I’ve already started to get a bit twitchy and wonder
at what rate my brain cells will start to dissolve, now that I am not
multitasking like a demon or working 12 hours a day, 7 days a week. So I am
trying to get into a new rhythm, a new mindset. One that is less about what I
did today and more about…did I do today what I enjoy most in life.
Right now that means leisurely coffee in the mornings, reading
the paper, maybe breakfast at the local diner, a great hot yoga class, lunch
with someone interesting or fun, walking my dog, writing, working around the
house to get it ready to sell, looking at garden books and dreaming about my
royal palms, studying some Spanish, making plans with friends, talking to
moving companies, planning and cooking a great dinner, hanging out with my
husband and best friend in life.
And being jubilada.
